Do you find that despite all your partner’s best efforts to get you in the mood, nothing is doing the trick, and you simply have no mind for sex? Fluctuations in libido, reduced desire and a general lack of sexual enthusiasm are often linked to psychological causes. Learn how to understand these causes better, so that you know how best to respond.
1/ Lack of orgasm
Clearly, when we only rarely reach climax, it is difficult to motivate ourselves for a daily roll in the sheets! The phenomenon of anorgasmia is difference from the absence of desire, because you can easily become aroused. The reasons that may be preventing you from reaching orgasm are diverse: difficulties in letting go, feeling guilty about pleasure, a lack of communication or having body inhibitions. Speaking about this to a specialist can sometimes do the world of good.
Vaginismus is a condition which is often psychological, which makes penetrative sex painful and uncomfortable, if not almost impossible, as the muscles at the entry to the vagina automatically contract. Orgasm is still possible, but only clitoral orgasm, without penetration. Sexologists regularly see patients affected by this problem, which weighs heavily on couples, and they can quickly support them to develop a fulfilling sex life. Don’t hesitate to make an appointment.
3/ Sleep apnoea
According to certain studies, sleep apnoea could lead to a reduction or absence of sexual desire. Also associated with sleepwalking, snoring, problems with mood or concentration, this condition can be easily diagnosed and rapidly treated, which allows to you get better quality sleep and leads to a more fulfilling sex life.
4/ Pain after giving birth
It is possible that a new mother will notice a clear drop in her sex drive after giving birth, because of hormonal changes and the fatigue that goes with having a newborn baby. If there were any incisions (e.g., an episiotomy) during the birth, you should wait until the wound has completely healed before going back to having sex.
5/ Lack of arousal
Lack of arousal needs to be distinguished from anorgasmia: lack of arousal means that during any part of sex, you do not become turned on, whereas with anorgasmia you can become turned on, but without being able to orgasm. Once again, a lack of arousal is often linked to psychological causes: fights within your relationship, a lack of self confidence, inhibitions about sex, etc. To address this problem, you may need to increase the amount of foreplay, for example, or consult a sexologist to better understand the causes of the mental block.
6/ Fungal infections
Fungal infections can really put the brakes on your sex life, which is the case for numerous young women. Redness and itching reduces their sexual pleasure. It is better to avoid sex until it heals, to avoid passing it on to your partner. But everything will go back to normal after you get the right treatment.
Many women contract sexually transmitted infections (STIs) without ever knowing it. If sex suddenly becomes painful for no apparent reason, don’t hesitate to consult a gynaecologist, as it could be due to this type of infection.